‘I'm officially done’: Woman cuts off family after entitled cousin disrespects woman's partner and turns father's side of the family against her, who disinvite her from a girls' trip

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Lana DeGaetano • "Show me to me please."
Feb 8, 2025 5:00 PM EST

If there's any adjective that is universally used to describe family, it would be the word "frustrating." The degree of frustration that you are subjected to differs greatly on a spectrum from super serious to not serious at all. Either way, frustration is frustration, and dealing with entitlement on any level is a cause enough to lose your mind.

In terms of romantic relationships, we can only hope that our crazy families welcome our partners with open arms. If they make us happy and foster a healthy romantic partnership, what reason would a family member have to emotionally exile your partner from family matters? Nobody's approval really matters, but it sure does feel nice to see that your family adores your partner just as much as you do.

The woman who shared this story does not have that luxury. Her cousin has given her partner the cold shoulder since she met him, and after a long period of time trying to put it out of her mind, the woman decides to excommunicate from her. Little did the woman know, her cousin was actively rallying the woman's father's side of the family against her. Keep reading to see how the situation unfolds.

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  • "The truth is, this was a long time coming.”
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  • "I cut off my family because they forgot to invite me on a girls’ trip"

    Several months ago, I started distancing myself from my cousin due to her toxic behavior toward my partner. My boyfriend (30M) and I (26F) have been together for four years and lived together for three. When my cousin (30F) first met him, she adored him. But the second we announced we were moving in together, her attitude completely changed.
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  • She started ignoring him, rolling her eyes, and acting like he didn't exist-even though he was always polite and kind to her. He even supported her through tough times, yet she acted like he was the problem. I've never disrespected her or any of her partners (even the questionable ones), so I didn't understand why she was treating mine like this.
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  • After we moved in together, I stopped reaching out as much. She never reached out either, except for one FaceTime call, where I was exhausted. She acted like I was in distress and being a sed. My boyfriend said hi, and she immediately hung up.
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  • Ironically, she was more supportive of me when I was in an actual a ive relationship. That was the last straw for me-l wasn't going to entertain someone who disrespected my life partner for no reason.
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  • To add to it, my dad's side of the family has always treated me, my parents, and my sister like outsiders. My grandmother even called my sister and me by completely wrong, unrelated names for two summers in a row ―as if we weren't even part of
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  • the family. It was clear that we were never truly included. My partner and I eventually moved to his city, eight hours away from where I'm originally from, and honestly, that distance has been a blessing.
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  • The Engagement Fallout Months passed, and my cousin got engaged. Despite the tension, I sent her a long, heartfelt congratulations message, which I even ran by our grandmother first. Before I could send it, my grandmother shared it with the entire family (even though I specifically asked her not to) because they were all on a family trip together.
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  • When my cousin finally saw my message, instead of thanking me, she blew up at me, calling me "fake" for reaching out after months of silence. I asked her to call me so we could talk properly -texting is terrible for serious conversations-but she refused. I
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  • wanted to explain that I distanced myself because of how she treated my partner. Instead of listening, she started calling me names and saying I've "always been a liar." She even ran my messages through an Al scanner (???) because she thought I wasn't being genuine.
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  • An AI scanner? For a "congratulations" text (that she didn't even really deserve)?! The entitlement this woman's cousin possesses is beyond anything a reader could have predicted. The cousin has treated the woman's partner like dirt since she met him, and yet, she refuses to apologize and goes so far as to assume the worst about the woman. One commenter writes, “Toxic people are never happy,” and I have to agree. The cousin has fixated on the beef for far too long, and the woman realizes this when she hears a girls' trip happened without her.

  • At that point, I had enough. I apologized for how she felt but stood firm that she was an adult who should know how to treat others with basic respect. I told her to get off her high horse and blocked her-on six different Instagrams, Facebook, and her
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  • phone number. She still managed to track down an account I forgot to block and messaged me there with the classic "I'm sorry, but..." So, I blocked that final account and moved on with my life, finally free of the toxicity—or so I thought.
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  • The Girls' Trip That Confirmed Everything Months later, I called my grandmother to check on her after hearing about a tornado in her area. She was fine, and during the conversation, she casually mentioned a girls' trip she and my aunts were going on. I didn't think much of it at the time and just asked her to throw a penny in the fountain for me as a small gesture.
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  • Fast forward a few more months, and my sister tells me that not only was she invited on the trip, but so was my cousin—the one I had cut off. Meanwhile, no one even bothered to text or call me about it. It was clear: they had all sided with my cousin and decided I was the problem simply because I stood up for myself.
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  • At this point, I wasn't even surprised. My family has a long history of treating me like I don't exist when I don't fall in line with their expectations.
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  • The Final Straw My mom was furious about the situation because she hates seeing me hurt. She called my grandmother, who had the audacity to say, "It's because she no longer relies on (my cousin) since she moved out." As if I'm supposed to be dependent on someone just to be included in family events? I'm an
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  • The Final Straw My mom was furious about the situation because she hates seeing me hurt. She called my grandmother, who had the audacity to say, "It's because she no longer relies on (my cousin) since she moved out." As if I'm supposed to be dependent on someone just to be included in family events? I'm an adult with my own life and responsibilities—I don't "rely" on anyone but myself and my partner.
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  • That side of the family then went off in their group chat, attacking my parents. They called them names, said they were stuck-up, and made it seem like we were the ones with the issue-when all we've ever done is stand up for ourselves. None of us have ever said anything negative about them beyond expressing our own hurt at how we've been treated.
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  • So, I'm officially done. I'm cutting off my entire dad's side of the family. My parents are cutting them off too. And all of this snowballed from something as simple as a family trip that they intentionally excluded me from.
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  • The truth is, this was a long time coming. There's so much history of toxicity that I haven't even scratched the surface of. But this situation made it clear that they don't respect me, my relationship, or my boundaries. So, Reddit, am I the ah le for walking away from my family for good?
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  • 92yraurbeF Not the a hole at all. How much of a choice you had? Self respect or keep being a door mat. Kudos for choosing yourself over anything else. Trust me, you lost nothing. No matter what you do, toxic people are never happy.
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  • wutthef k2020 NTA. And please don't ever apologize to someone because of THEIR behaviour. You've done more than enough atp. Just because they're family, doesn't mean you need to subject yourself to feeling less than or like you did something wrong.
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  • KLG999 You are better off without them. You said they never had much to do with your sister either. You realize that she was probably invited just to get to you. My guess also is that cuz had a crush on your partner
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  • gitsgrl None of this is normal behavior from adults and in middle school it's "normal" but shouldn't be tolerated. Even though it hurts to be excluded, it's for the best to keep your distance.
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